Welcome!

Hello! Welcome to my Remarkable Sparkling Mess!

Every time I read an incredible book, I want to write one. And, before you go judging and thinking I am some ratchet copy-cat, let's be real. We all get that feeling from something-- you see a great outfit on tumblr and you NEED to own it (and rock it, of course), you're taking notes on that flawless make-up tutorial on instagram, and you see a picture of some AMAZING cheese fries on pinterest and you are.....settling for those sour cream and cheddar potato chips (like no, I don't own a mandolin for my potatoes, I am not Ree Drummond). It's called INSPIRATION, and it doesn't make me unoriginal, it makes me, like, the best listener ever (she wrote without wanting your damn opinion).

I recently have been so inspired by the advice of many fabulous women's books (Grace Helbig, Mindy Kaling, Alexa Chung) that I decided to finally combine my two loves: writing and helping people. I could have gone with my other loves, but "My boyfriend and bread products" would have been such a niche project.

I am so happy to be finally starting this blog, and I am extremely grateful that you're reading it. I thought before I started on the weekly topics** I have lined up, I would give a quick intro by answering a few questions I'm sure my new readers may have as we approach the launch of this beauty! 


Who the hell are YOU to launch a blog featuring ADVICE?
Well, dear reader, that's a pretty excellent question. So let me tell you the most important thing about this blog: It's being written by someone who knows they are a complete and utter mess. It's also being written by someone who tries really hard every day to love themselves. And I'll give you a hint-- there's only one writer on this blog. YEAH, it's edgy and confusing like that. Someone who absolutely does not have their shit completely together wants to give you advice. But here's the thing about my advice-- you get to choose what it means, and what's more is that you can give it right back to me. I want this blog to be as much of a community as possible-- meaning that little box on the side of the page isn't a decoration, people. 

I'm not telling you about my experience because I think it's how you should live your life, I'm telling you about my life because it's a hilarious mess. I want to share my experiences with you and help you learn and make your own damn decisions. 

Wait, you want to help people? Aren't you, like, kind of mean?
This is actually what has been brewing in me/inspiring me to write for young girls for a while now; I once was a total ASSHOLE. Yep-- I was a gossipy, confrontational, judgemental jerk. I was completely addicted to the drama of high school, and no matter how much I claimed to "hate" fighting with other girls or having nasty rumours spread around the school or bullying I always seemed to be smack dab in the middle of it. You wanna know what that got me?

Like, no friends.

A couple years went by after high school and I realized just how low my self-esteem was. The day I started building myself back up was the day I realized that I was only mean to others because of the way I felt about myself. I literally wrote an open letter of apology to anyone who knew me in high school, and I urged all of the kids I knew in high school to love themselves so that they may love others and never find themselves friendless and angry like I was. And guess what? That was the most read post I had ever written on a blog in my 3 years of blogging. I think you can see where this is going.

So is this blog only for teen girls?
Not at all-- I think anyone can learn from understanding and observing another person's experience. I simply aim this at teen girls because that's the one part of life I can speak to pretty wholly, having gone through it completely. This blog is for anyone! Whether you're struggling with the transition into adulthood, in the process of adulting (kind of) like me, wondering what the hell is wrong with your teenager, or a boy incognito trying to understand women (kudos, kid), I think you can find something here you might like.

Um, shouldn't you be focusing on your career?
I sure should. A huge part of working in the human services industry is taking care of yourself and doing things you like in your spare time so that you don't want to strangle all of your clients. Since I love writing, I figured this could be a cool way to take my mind off of work stuff and talk to you about aaaalllll the other stuff. 

What if we want to know about your career?
If you want to know what it's like to be a social worker, ask someone to walk all over you and then thank them after.

Kidding-- my job is awesome. Should you ever want me to comment on my work, I will absolutely do so, as long as by "tell me about being a social worker" you don't mean "tell me your clients names and addresses, please."

Why blogging? I thought you were a youtube freak?
Yes, I do love my youtube, and my rants as a 12 year old were a real hit, but I'm hanging up that hat for a little while. Plus, hey, in this day and age I think we could all use a little reading over watching. Don't get me wrong-- I think vlogging and youtube tutorials are amazing and I watch them often, but I do not have the technology, time, or pores to tape myself and edit it for you with cute music and transitions every week. Please see the comment on my career above.


Oh, and like, I guess you should tell us about yourself and whatever.
Well, I'm a recent University Graduate, I'm a social worker and aspiring world-changer, and I like anything pink. I grew up on a farm and I live in the city, I love food so much that sometimes I can't sleep because I'm too excited about breakfast, and I love to sing. I cry in particularly touching yogurt commercials and only recently learned how to apply eyeshadow. 

At the very least, I can tell you what not to do!

Thank you so much for reading, stay tuned for my first post on Thursday! Suggest a Mess in the box on the right side of the page and don't forget to SPARKLE! 

xoxoxox








**You can add to my ever-growing list of topics by using the "Suggest a Mess" bar on the side of the page to ask a question or suggest a topic you'd like to hear me speak on! You can also do so by messaging me on my instagram or facebook should you know them ;)